Behavior & Etiquette
Most often, the "wrong thing" is a sincere statement that
unknowingly flies in the face of the local culture. This can
be avoided by spending the first few days reading what others
have had to say, especially in the topics that interest you
most. When a member posts, the number of times they've posted
accompanies their name and membership date. Look for the most
talkative, go to their profile, then click on "find all posts
by" and you'll get a good impression of the kinds of
conversations that have gone on before.
You can definitely assume that all Politics and political
statements are considered needless and potentially inflamatory
(at least to someone) and are subject to immediate deletion.
Continued political posts will most likely get the member banned.
The most courteous way of requesting something free from a
total stranger is to find the person who has posted either
what you are looking for or similar work and email privately.
Do not demand. First ask if they plan to post again in the near
future and state that it would mean a lot to you if something
particular was posted. You may find that the original poster
is happy to discover someone else as interested in that
particular bit of material.
If you insist on posting a request for material on the forum,
there are very specific guidelines for doing so:
- Any request for material to be posted must appear in the
topic titled "The Thread for Requests" in the
"Into the Swamp" forum.
- Any request for material to be posted must employ a
certain minimum level of courtesy, diplomacy, and good character.
- Posts requesting material should be very infrequent.
- New users (those unable to use the "email" feature)
may have a maximum of one post in "The Thread for
Requests" asking for material. (The thread will be culled from
time to time, but the general principle is that if you are not
contributing much to the community, think carefully about how
much you ask of it.)
- No one may post a request if that request will then be their
only post on the forum. At least some sort of
participation is expected before you ask the community to spend
its time and money on your specific desires. Shill posts
designed specifically to satify this requirement don't count.
If a request is posted that substantially does not comply
with these criteria, it may be removed or moved into the
"Deep Cesspool" forum. In order to prevent rewarding
such behavior, any attachments posted by other users in response
to such an obnoxious request will be removed.
The reason these posts are moved to the Deep Cesspool forum
is not to be insulting to new users, although this is sometimes
misperceived as the case. The Deep Cesspool is the only forum
where old posts expire. This means that after you have learned
the error of your ways, your misstep will be removed and will
not become a permanent part of board history.
A "Gimme" is a person who, through their clumsy way of asking,
imitates the impatient child most likely to use the word.
Somebody who unabashedly asks for something for nothing. Somebody
who forgets that what they want simply for the asking could
easily be something originally obtained through the owner's
years of patience. This is especially true for those who want
something given them from artists who spend hours at their
work to produce a gift for the community. And especially annoying
are those who critique that work, asking that something be
changed so that it is more appealing to them personally.
In general, yes. People put a lot of time and energy into developing
their forum identities, and as such, they do tend to closely identify with
those names and personas. Even though you may not be under any legal
obligation to seek their permission before using their names or likenesses
in material you create, common courtesy dictates that you should. If you
don't, you might create the (hopefully mistaken) impression that your
interest in that person goes beyond what's appropriate.
It's easy to make up fake names. Please do, unless you've talked it over
with the person or persona you're proposing to incorporate into your work.
Foster's First Law of Diplomacy states that when a decent
person with one perspective meets a decent person with the
opposite perspective, two assholes are created. A person who
truly goes over the top with obnoxious behavior will eventually
drop out of their own overweight self importance. If that
isn't soon enough for you, email the Moderator and lay out
your objections. Each case deserves its own solution.
It is highly recommended that you state your answer in
the form of a question. Rather than meet their point of
view straight on with an argument or an attack, ask them
to explain how they came to that conclusion since your
own experience draws a completely different conclusion.
Engage in discussion that tries to answer a question you
do not believe was satisfactorally addressed.
Pull back on the very human tendancy to counter attack
and ask for an explanation of the point of view that led
them to disagree. Write clearly, calmly and respectfully.
It will either deflate the attack or eventually highlight
the attacker as a candidate for banishment.
Personal attacks will not be tolerated, and will be moved
to the Cesspool. Opinions are free to conflict, as
long as they do so peacefully.
You can either respond in kind and start a flame war,
or go by the advice given in the previous answer. While the
former response may feel completely justified, you'll feel
much better if you choose the latter. And so will the
moderators. Courtesy goes a long way here, and tends to
give the benefit to the reasonable and the soft-spoken.
Those who get banned have either managed to find a way
of repeatedly breaking our very liberal rules of what to
post, or whose posts continue to go against the grain of
the others in the Forum to the extent that they have made
themselves a public pariah.
Contact Foster Blake and
explain how the behavior that got you banned has become a thing of
your former life and will never again darken the Forum's pages.
Chances are, if you haven't come to that conclusion yourself, you'll
probably not be readmitted. Even if you have, there is no certainty.